one of the most selfish and woolen statements i have ever heard a gay "man" say is, "there's nothing wrong with my enjoying other people". it's woolen because it is a 'please me' proclamation wrapped in words of innocence, and it's selfish because...all he's "enjoying" about the other person is physical. dabba dabba, ejaculate giggle clap...nudity nudity nudity.
when two are watching a movie, having dinner or shopping at a mall, they're enjoying each other's company. that's selfless. when two are naked in bed together doing anything sexual, they are enjoying the other person's ability to please their libido or satisfy their sexual delusions. that's selfish.
just so you're aware.